When your child comes home and tells you that someone is being unkind to them at school, it can be heartbreaking.  Thinking about your kid getting bullied is enough to make you want to sue the school and the other parents.  However, before you jump to taking action, it’s essential to take the proper steps to determine the best plan.

Failing to have all of the information and tools may cause more damage than resolution.  Therefore, take a look at some of the most important tips for handling your child being bullied at school.

Determine The Severity
The first step is to determine what the facts are.  Listen to your son or daughter and determine what was said or done.  Rather than jumping to conclusions, gather all of the information and decide whether you need to talk to the school or directly with the other parents.

In some cases, you may have to talk to both the school and the other parent in order to work together to find the best solution.

Listen To Your Child
When your child speaks, give them your full attention.  Don’t interrupt, even if you have something to say.  It’s imperative that they feel heard and understood.

If you interrupt them,  you may fail to hear critical parts of the story and may potentially scare them away from revealing more details.  Tough love is the last thing that a child in distress needs.  If a child is being bullied, they need compassion and a shoulder to lean on.

Don’t Strike Back
It’s easy to take it personally and make it about you, but it’s not.  Even though you may feel emotional and like you want to go and give the bully a piece of your mind, it’s important not to take matters into your own hands. 

It’s vital that you try as hard as possible to focus on being as objective as possible, even though you’re clearly on your child’s side.  Try to stay calm and remember that two wrongs don’t make a right.  Your child will benefit most from you being supportive, not vindictive.

Teach Your Child How To React
It’s helpful if you give your child some coaching on the best ways to react to bullies.  Old school tactics like “hit the kid back who hit you” isn’t the best advice.  Bullying that’s met with more intimidation will only perpetuate the problem.

It’s best if your child tries tactics to disarm the bully by ignoring them, or telling an adult at school about the problem.  Encourage them to have more confidence in themselves, even though it may be difficult with someone attempting to tear down their self-worth.

With enough support and coaching, you can make it through this difficult time together.